Forgive Your Foe Friday
Observed
the last Friday in August (since 1988)
Dates
Founded by
Lorraine Jara in August 1988
Member of
Sibling Events
Motorist Consideration Monday
Sacrifice Our Wants for Other's Needs Sunday
Speak Kind Words Saturday
Thoughtful Thursday
Touch-A-Heart Tuesday
Willing-To-Lend-A-Hand Wednesday
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Forgive Your Foe Friday is a time to "try to find enough forgiveness in your heart to alleviate any anger you may be feeling towards other people or even towards yourself." The day is part of Be Kind To Humankind Week, which is "a celebration of people and the kind acts that they perform all across the globe." Lorraine Jara created the week in 1988 after reading a story about two young men in her town of Toms River, New Jersey, who had flipped over in a rowboat. Two ladies from another boat pulled them out of the cold water, but their boat was not motorized and they didn't have a radio to call for help. Two boats with radio antennas passed and did not stop to help. A person from one of those boats even said, "We don't want to be bothered." One of the two boaters who had fallen in the water ended up dying. Jara was devastated by what had happened in her town and wanted to honor the memory of the deceased man, so she created Be Kind to Humankind Week.
How to Observe Forgive Your Foe Friday
The creator of the day has suggested the following ways to celebrate:
- Forgive yourself when you make a mistake.
- Consume positive & uplifting content every day.
- Try deep breathing or meditation to clear your mind.
- Don't hold a grudge.
- Practice thinking good thoughts, not hateful ones.
- Try to make sense of what happened.
- Being able to forgive is very difficult, but putting effort into learning to forgive is worthwhile. Holding a grudge is bad for your health and the recipients.
- Be the first to make the move towards reconciliation. If your attempts fail, at least you tried.
- Look for insightful books on the topic of forgiveness. This may be an excellent source of help for you.
- Never allow any abuses toward you to continue. Avoid the offender at all costs!